3 Powerful lessons from How to stop worrying and start living by Dale Carnegie I Self-help

March 01, 2019

Stop worrying and start living - Dale Carnegie Self-help
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How to stop worrying and start living by Dale Carnegie, is one of the classics in Self-help and motivational genre, which analyses our day-to-day worries in everyone's life and shows us simple actionable suggestions to overcome. Despite the 'age' of the book (It was first published in 1948), the entire content is still current, usable, and easily applicable. No wonder why more than 16 Million copies are sold!.

Here’re my top-3 learning from the book:

1. A problem understood/analyzed is half-solved

Most of the worries come from either things that are entirely out of our control; or things that are far ahead (that’s anxiety). First, we must ask ourselves what kind of problem we have and whether we can do anything about it.

Stop worrying and start living by Dale Carnegie Self-help

Often we aren't happy because we try to change things that we can't change. we should learn to identify those things and accept them as the first step, and look further to make the impact better. Also to focus just on today, do our best today, the future will take care of itself.

2. Break the Worry Before It Breaks You

Worry gets into your mind, only when you’re “reactive”. When something starts to get you worried, be “proactive” and start gathering as many facts as you can about the situation, then use those facts to develop a plan of attack. Once the attack plan is in place, get them down into implementation without any anxiety about the outcome.

It all comes down to five simple questions: What is the problem? What are the causes of the problem? What are the possible solutions? What is the best solution? And importantly, ask yourself what is the worst that could happen?

Just write these questions in a paper and answer them in the same order whenever something starts to bother you; you will dig out the worry from its root. Below are some of the practical tips:

3. How to keep from worrying about criticism?

Analyze the criticisms; if it's unjustified just view it as a compliment. Unjustified criticism mostly comes from a person jealous of your senses. On the other hand, If the criticism is well stated and mature, then you be thankful for it because it's coming from someone who sincerely wants to help you and may have the wisdom to share. This would eliminate.

If you have a read this book, feel free to add your views; If you have not, go ahead and read it. The understanding principle it really helps you in understanding what value is.

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  1. Interesting article. These things have never worked for me but hopefully they will be of use to other people.

    1. True, I know, they're really difficult to follow :)

  2. This book seems to have the half life of uranium ;)

  3. Some good points you've picked out there. Thanks for sharing.
    Gemma @ Gemma's Book Nook

  4. I'm not much of a worrier anyway. I tend to be 'life happens get on with it' kind of person.

  5. I love that last point. Unjust criticism is really just a sign someone is jealous, and just criticism is a note to grow!

  6. I totally needed to read this right now. Thank you!